家庭礼仪与酒

二、家庭礼仪与酒

(一)以酒接风洗尘

在人际交往中，酒也是表达感情不可或缺的用品。如客人来访，以酒待客、劝客饮酒是自古至今的习俗，客人来了，主人殷勤劝客饮酒历来就被视为表达情意的重要形式。如：

◆ 凤姐听了，忙命两个媳妇坐车在那边接了来。心中一刺未除，又平空添一刺，说不得且吞声忍气，将好颜面换出来遮掩。一面又命摆酒接风，一面带了秋桐来见贾母与王夫人等。(曹雪芹《红楼梦》第六十九回)

Xifeng immediately sent two serving-women to fetch Qiutong by carriage．Before she had rid herself of one thorn in her side，here，—out of the blue—was another!However，she had to watch her tongue and hide her anger by a show of complaisance，ordering a feast of welcome，then taking Qiutong to present her to the Lady Dowager and Lady Wang．(杨宪益、戴乃迭译)

(二)以酒送别饯行

人际交往中以酒达意的习俗还有送别饯行。古人饯行或搭帐篷于郊外，或设别宴于家里、长亭、短亭、旅舍、酒肆，借酒抒发离情别绪。如：

◆ 展眼已到十月，因有各铺面伙计内有算年帐要回家的，少不得家内治酒饯行。(曹雪芹《红楼梦》第四十八回)

In no time the tenth month arrived，and as some of their shop managers were to get home to settle their annual accounts，the Xue family had to prepare a farewell feast for them．(杨宪益、戴乃迭译)再如：

◆ 贾政最循规矩，在伦理上也讲究的，执手分别后，自己先骑马赶至城外举酒送行，又叮咛了好些国家轸恤勋臣，力图报称的话。(曹雪芹《红楼梦》第一百零七回)

Jia Zheng，a model of propriety with a strong sense of moral obligation，clasped his brother's hand in farewell then rode ahead out of the city to offer them wine at the Pavilion of Parting and wish them a good journey．He reminded them of the government's concern for meritorious minister，and exhorted to work hard to repay this compassion．(杨宪益、戴乃迭译)